This weekend included several conversations about relationships, including a few that went wrong. My favorite quote was from a counselor talking to a couple who were divorcing and had children. The counselor said that communication would be very important as they sorted out their split, but then again if they had good communication they probably would not be in the situation of breaking up.
I remembered the issues with my own divorce, and in another conversation I talked to a mutual friend about some of it. She said (a decade later) that my ex had talked to her at the time, too, with the same complaints from another perspective. The friend was wise enough to not get into the middle of things at the time. Hearing it now, though, assured me that I was not imagining things!
Sometimes people have very different ideas about what is important in a relationship. And yet we hear that opposites attract. The difference is in communication, which leads to understanding and finding ways to combine the different approaches to make life better. Unfortunately there is a tendency in some to make assumptions, allow the differences to become conflicts, and ultimately decide that things must end.
Lack of communication, I think that’s the reason behind 98% of divorce! This brings me to Papa Legba, the Lwa who is dedicated to communication. As the gatekeeper for the other Lwa, he is one that all Vodouisants must work with — the first Lwa we generally get to know! On Papa Legba’s page in Spellmaker, you’ll find some information about serving Papa, and also some products to use to serve him and call upon him. Ask for Papa’s help for any communication issues you’re having. Serve him and ask him to make you a better communicator. It’s a skill we can all improve upon!
Love, Khouzhan Lucy
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