Mambo Samantha Corfield

Less than Perfect?

Hello everyone!  Some recent events have made me think about a subject that often comes up - the perfect man  or woman!  Many clients have searched and searched for the perfect person and found that they came up short.  Upon speaking with them I find that their list of desires for a mate is quite extensive and detailed.  I don't really object to that; you want what you want!  However, the flaw in it is that I see how a lot of great potential mates could be overlooked.

Also, what about time, age, illness, etc.?  What happens when Mr. or Ms. Perfect isn't so perfect anymore?  It reminded me of a post from Parran Matt a few years ago and I wanted to repost it here!

"Hi everyone! Mambo and I watched a movie the other night titled, "Defiance."  Have you seen this movie?  It is a powerful film about the human spirit, survival, and love.  It is also a true story.  If you have not seen it, I highly recommend it.

One thing among many that really struck me was the love story component to this story.  I don't really want to give the story away, but love grew in probably the most adverse conditions that one could experience.  It would seem that love, romantic love, would have been the last thing on peoples' minds in these conditions.  But it existed.  Not only did the love exist, it grew, thrived, and lasted for many years between some of the couples.

It got me to thinking - are some people lazy about love?  If everything isn't perfect, the perfect man or woman, the perfect restaurant date, the perfect flowers and gifts, then does it mean the love is lessened?  I think a good question to ask is can you love under adverse conditions?  What happens when the "perfect" man or woman becomes less than perfect due to some terrible circumstance?  Do you walk away, or do you still see the perfection under the circumstance?

So much emphasis is put on what someone you love has to be - what he or she has to do, give, become - that I cannot help but wonder if some people are just soft and lazy where love is concerned. To watch this movie and see these people falling in love under horrific circumstances was just mind blowing. On the other hand, I suppose that under horrific circumstances would be a great place to bond, share the fear and horror with someone.

Anyway, if you want to see what I am talking about, watch the film!"

I have to say it was a great movie!  And everyone should ask themselves the question Parran asked above, "Can you love under adverse conditions?"

Love, Mambo Samantha Corfield

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Do You Really Love Him or....

do you love the IDEA of him?  Now that could just as easily be a "her" instead of a "him" but since the majority of our clients here at Spellmaker are women who are doing love magick on men, I am going to stick with "him" for the purpose of this post.  :-)

Every so often I work with a client who I feel really isn't in love with the person that they are working on!  This is a hard subject to broach with a person simply because it brings up defensive talk from the client and we get no where!  The minute I start to question whether or not there is "true love" coming from the person doing the spell work, all their defenses go up!  However, when I am doing spell work on their behalf, I always see the truth and the truth is:  Sometimes you are in love with the idea of the man you want him to be, not the man himself. 

Some of you are working on the man you think you can make him become; if he would just change a few things then he would be the ideal man for you!  Some of you are working on the man who you know is just plain old unobtainable.  Some of you are working on the man who has ripped your heart out, stomped on it, and fed it to you and yet you still think there is "something there." 

Now admittedly, this group of clients makes up a very small percentage of clients!  Most of you are working on a valid case.  But if this post rings a bell with you and you wonder, "Is she talking about me?" then I would suggest that you take a closer look at who you are choosing to spend your precious time and money on. 

If you are working on a man (or woman) that you feel you are going to change completely with spell work and THEN they will be great for you, you definitely need to reassess what you are doing.  Yes, spell work can effect great change in a person, but remember the changes that you are trying to make should be changes for the better for HIM not just for you.  For instance, if your intended is suffering from past emotional damage and you are trying to change the effects from that, then you are on the right track because it is good for him and then secondly good for you.  If you are doing spell work to try to make him a neatnik, wear his hair a certain way, and do a job he would probably hate because you want him to make more money, then you are on the wrong track.

You need to be in love with the man he is and when you are trying to effect change, it has to be for his greater good first, and your benefit should be second. 

Love, Mambo Sam

Are You in Love and Angry?

Greetings everyone!  As you all know, of course, working with clients who are doing our love spells gives me a great opportunity to be privileged enough to see the inner workings of many, many relationships. One thing that I see a LOT of are people who are actually very angry with the person upon whom they are doing love spell work!!  :-)

Now believe me I am not saying that their anger is unwarranted!  Quite often they have been dumped in a very unceremonious way, getting hurt, remaining hurt, feeling no resolution for their hurt.  Of course they are angry!  Many times they are in contact with this person and still get hurt by them and thus the anger grows.  But here they are trying to do love spell work which by its very nature requires that you approach it from a standpoint of unconditional and pure love!   How on earth does one resolve that?

Many people have chosen to do white candle magick kits and the Milk of Damballah(tm) white bath to help them release and remove the anger so that they may continue on with their love spell work feeling cleansed of that anger.  But what about that underlying, I-have-tried-and-I-just-can't-get-rid-of-this anger? You probably know and feel deep down inside that the anger your are feeling towards the person you are doing love spell work on is somehow degrading that very work!  In fact, sometimes it gets so bad in people that they get on an endless cycle of being angry with their HD (Heart's Desire) and then being angry with themselves for being angry with their HD and then being angry that they are angry! 

Sometimes this can just go on and on especially if they are in contact with the HD who continues to needle them with either a new relationship, or continued criticism, or other negative behaviors.  Just because you love them doesn't mean you are not affected by their negative behaviors!  Your resentment of these behaviors can have a definite negative effect on your love spell work!

If you feel you are in this situation then I do encourage you to acknowledge what is happening and then take as many measures as necessary to help alleviate as much of the anger as you can.  Look, we are human, and most of us are not Mother Teresa, so you can only do the best you can!  The abovementioned white candle magick and Milk of Damballah white bath are definitely the standard tools for removing negativity and certainly do work for quite a number of people.  The Pink Bubble Meditation is helpful to use to release that anger and send it away from you!

Another choice is doing the Baron's Purple Bath. One of the many uses of the Baron's Purple Bath is to take negative things away and bury them!  Along with that, you can ask that your own love for this person be resurrected to its full feeling once that anger is taken and buried away. In this way, you will again have the FULL POWER of your love to put into your spell work.  Remember, the great and powerful Baron Samedi is not just the lwa of death, but of life - burying and resurrecting are his forte'.  Asking him to bury your anger, hurt, and resentment and replace them with fresh and invigorated love, forgiveness, and positivity is sure to not only make you feel better, but to strengthen the power of your love spell work!

Love, Mambo Sam

How Do You Get Along with You?

Greetings everyone!   Every day I am blessed to communicate with my clients, friends, and family from Spellmaker!  Many times I am privileged to do a consultation with you or in some other way hear your story and offer you guidance and advice.

More and more lately I find that so many of you have lost sight of who you are.  There are those of you who seem to question your choices so much that you end up not making a choice.  There are others of you who seem to have fallen into self-hate, self-criticism, and general self-loathing.  :-(   It makes me so sad to see this happening!

So that brings up the question that is the title of this post:  How Do You Get Along with You?  Something that I believe happens, especially when you have been working on something such as a relationship case for a long time, is that you tend to lose sight of yourself!  We get so focused on working on the person we wish to have as our love that we forget that we, too, have the role of "self" to play in our own lives!

I find this especially true of my female clients - you end up having such an earnest desire to be loved, that you forget to love the most important person - YOU!  I cannot help but think sometimes that if you put as much effort into loving yourself as you do to your love spell work then that work would come to fruition a heck of a lot faster.

So remember, just take some time today to remember who you are, love yourself, and try to get along with YOU!

Love, Mambo Sam