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Greetings, everyone!
As one might expect, I get a fair share of angry folks who are working on their cases. Often with hurt comes anger! Of course, we all experience anger at one time or another. Most of have lived through hearing that we should "rise above it" or "not stoop to that level" or something of that nature. Unfortunately, that isn't always possible.
Occasional anger can be good, gets the blood boiling, even can be put into spell work at certain times in certain ways to redirect a negative emotion into a positive endeavor. However, my concerns with anger come when I see that that is the first emotion that some people revert to in most situations. You probably know someone like that in your friends or family group - no matter what, they will find something wrong with what they have, what is being done, or what they are experiencing. There is no way to please them.
I get concerned for them because I wonder if anything will ever make them truly happy. They don't get excited over small victories. They don't see the good in what they are doing or learning. Nothing is ever helpful, useful, or right in their minds. No matter what I tell them, there is always an underlying tone of "no, that's not right, nothing ever goes right for me and it never will." I have even experienced those who got exactly what they asked for in spell work but then found a way to be angry about it. They literally will sabotage the exact results they were looking for by being angry about SOMETHING (i.e., usually nothing!).
Anger is a complicated emotion - not necessarily always negative, sometimes healthy. When it gets out of hand, though, seeking to change that behavior is crucial to your ultimate happiness. One thing I have noticed is that angry people generally have impossible standards. When I ask them if they feel that they, themselves, could hold up to the standards they impose on others, of course I am met with anger about deigning to ask them that. :-)
However, if you are finding that you are quite angry about most things most of the time, you might want to ask yourself just that question and then some: Can you live up to the standards you set for everyone else? Do you always do everything right? Are you always on your best behavior and is every decision you make the perfect one? Do you always choose your words just right? Do you never make a mistake? If just me asking you that is starting to make your blood boil, you might have an anger problem! ;-)
In some cases, I have even recommended that folks do the Lady Samantha's Hex Removal kit to help alleviate and prevent some of their anger. No, they aren't cursed, but having that much anger is building up a wall of negativity that needs to be removed! white candle magick kits or a Cosmic Voodoo Healing Egg can also be used to help with anger issues.
I would like us all to take another look at anger, what it does to us, why, and why are we so angry? There is a great article at the American Psychological Association website that I think is a great read. If you aren't the one with the anger problem chances are you know someone who is. It's a good read for that, too!
http://www.apa.org/topics/anger/control.aspx#
Love, light, and peace,
Mambo Samantha Corfield
www.spellmaker.com
