do you love the IDEA of him? Now that could just as easily be a "her" instead of a "him" but since the majority of our clients here at Spellmaker are women who are doing love magick on men, I am going to stick with "him" for the purpose of this post. :-)
Every so often I work with a client who I feel really isn't in love with the person that they are working on! This is a hard subject to broach with a person simply because it brings up defensive talk from the client and we get no where! The minute I start to question whether or not there is "true love" coming from the person doing the spell work, all their defenses go up! However, when I am doing spell work on their behalf, I always see the truth and the truth is: Sometimes you are in love with the idea of the man you want him to be, not the man himself.
Some of you are working on the man you think you can make him become; if he would just change a few things then he would be the ideal man for you! Some of you are working on the man who you know is just plain old unobtainable. Some of you are working on the man who has ripped your heart out, stomped on it, and fed it to you and yet you still think there is "something there."
Now admittedly, this group of clients makes up a very small percentage of clients! Most of you are working on a valid case. But if this post rings a bell with you and you wonder, "Is she talking about me?" then I would suggest that you take a closer look at who you are choosing to spend your precious time and money on.
If you are working on a man (or woman) that you feel you are going to change completely with spell work and THEN they will be great for you, you definitely need to reassess what you are doing. Yes, spell work can effect great change in a person, but remember the changes that you are trying to make should be changes for the better for HIM not just for you. For instance, if your intended is suffering from past emotional damage and you are trying to change the effects from that, then you are on the right track because it is good for him and then secondly good for you. If you are doing spell work to try to make him a neatnik, wear his hair a certain way, and do a job he would probably hate because you want him to make more money, then you are on the wrong track.
You need to be in love with the man he is and when you are trying to effect change, it has to be for his greater good first, and your benefit should be second.
Love, Mambo Sam
