Mambo Samantha Corfield

Is it worth it?

Hello everyone!  I know we have talked about this subject before, but I thought it was worth revisiting.  All the time in readings I get asked the question, "Is s/he worth me doing (or continuing to do) spell work on?"

Generally speaking, I don't have an answer for that because I think that only you can tell if someone is worth your time, trouble, money, and energy.  That is what I usually tell you - "You tell me if s/he is worth it!"  Some of you laugh, some of  you get angry with me, and some of you find your thoughts provoked!

In all fairness, some things that I can tell you is whether or not I think the person you are working on or considering working on is an inherently bad or good person.  (And, yes, I think some people ARE inherently bad and no amount of healing or goodie-two-shoes work on them is going to make them a good person!)  I can tell you if I feel any love for you there.  I can tell you if there intentions are good or bad towards you.  However, even knowing those things from me, only you can tell me if it is worth it.

But what factors might come into figuring out if it is worth it?  Here is an excerpt from an article by Daniel Harken:

"You're having problems in your relationship, and while you love your partner, you simply aren't sure as to whether it's worth saving. The vast majority of relationships can be saved - the question is, should you? This article will help you answer that question.

The first question if you're deciding if your relationship is worth saving is if there is abuse involved. Whether this is physical or emotional abuse, it doesn't matter. If there is any kind of abuse going on, you need to get out of that relationship - if you have kids, this is especially imperative. No relationship is worth saving when there's abuse involved - it will only escalate over time.

If there's no abuse, you then have to look at whether you enjoy being around this person or not. Are they one of your favorite people to simply hang around with? If not, you need to figure out if you can regain the good times or not. This requires some objectivity, but it's the simplest thing in the world - if you don't enjoy being around them at all, things need to change.

If there's infidelity involved, you have to figure out how that's going to affect the rest of your marriage or relationship. If you can't trust them, or they can't trust you, is this going to become more of a problem over time, or less? Infidelity always has a profound effect on relationships, and, while it can be often-times be worked through, it can't always.

Another question is: are your needs being met? Do you feel like you're being listened to, are you appreciated? If the answer to either of those are, there's a very fundamental problem in your relationship. It's nothing that can't be fixed - and in fact, changing your own behaviors can often lead to your partner changing theirs. You have to figure out if the potential is there, though in order to know evaluate if the relationship is actually worth saving.

Figuring out your own behaviors is actually one of the absolute most critical steps here. You have to objectively look at what you are doing - are you belittling them? Are you constantly nagging at them, or making them feel inadequate or unappreciated? If so, or if you are doing other negative behaviors, are you truly willing to change?

You have to assume that turning your relationship around will have to begin with you - are you willing to educate yourself and actually commit yourself to making changes? This is no small matter. That commitment will take a lot of effort, and a lot of learning. You have to retrain yourself to not be defensive anymore, and to be less critical and learn to show your appreciation of your partner, or your relationship will not be worth saving.

After you evaluate all these factors, you need to sit down and really look at the situation. Are you willing to make the changes, do you think the potential is there for your partner to? Is marriage or couples therapy an option? Get out there and study up on more relationship information - the more you have, the better equipped you will be able to decide if it's worth saving, and the better you'll be if you actually try to save your relationship."

End of Article

So, as we can see, there are a lot of factors in the decision of whether a relationship is worth continuing or pursuing.  But I do want to bring up one last thing that I feel is of the utmost importance - you must always feel right about what you are doing.  Listen to your inner voice, your gut, whatever you want to call it.  No matter what anyone else says, if you feel right about the relationship, and you are being safe, then no one should be able to talk you out of going forward (or not) but you!  :-)  Your friends, family, myself, and anyone else you talk to may have a valuable opinion.  However, in the end, your happiness in your life, and the pursuit thereof is your choice to make.  Other people in your life may not see what you see in a person - that is fine, as long as you are true to yourself about what you see. 

Love, light, and peace,

Mambo Samantha  Corfield, www.spellmaker.com

 

 

With Love in Your Heart....

and you have to mean it!  :-)

Hello everyone!  I had to take a little break from blogging while Parran Matt was out of town as I had to handle the orders in the office.  :-)  Hopefully I didn't screw up too many of your orders.  If you got something unusual, that was probably my mistake - just let us know!

Anyway, I was recently have a great consultation with a dear client of mine and, as I have on many occasions, I had the guidance that her fellow was feeling like maybe he had made too many mistakes and I felt like he was believing that her door was closed to him.  I encouraged her to use whatever products she had on hand, her love doll, candles, etc., to petition towards him that, yes, they could start over, yes, her door was still open, and yes, things could work out between them; the past could be in the past and they could start over... and then....

came my admonishment, "Honey, you have to MEAN it when you say it!"  :-) 

So many people come to me with hurt from their relationship, having been treated badly, cheated on, etc.  However, they still want to be with that person, they still love them.  That part is fine.  However, where the challenge can sometimes come in is that when you are doing this love spell work you absolutely, positively have to do it with pure love in your heart.  You cannot feed your anger, hurt, and negative feelings into your spell work.  I am not saying this is an easy thing to do.  It's hard.  Really hard sometimes.  H owever, love spell work is about LOVE - both giving and receiving.  You have to truly give it to get it.

No, I don't mean you have to take someone's bad treatment of you, that is not what I mean at all.  However, you can use your spell work to try to change that bad treatment, to let the person know that  you don't intend to take that treatment anymore, but it has to be with the love in your heart that you truly feel for them.  However, it is not just WHAT you say, it is also how you FEEL when you say it.  If you are just phoning it in, it isn't going to work for you. 

I always recommend to people to not do love spell work when they are feeling angry.  You have to set aside that anger, even if you can just do it for the time of the spell work.  And that is kind of the trick - you can still keep your anger and your hurt (though we want to work on that, too!), just compartmentalize it.  Decide before you start your work to set aside those negative feelings.  You will actually feel much better for that time period, too!  Do those candles or love dolls or spell castings with pure love in your heart for the person you intend to affect with your work.  Just for those minutes, fantasize that nothing bad has ever happened between you - there is just pure love and joy being sent out.  :-)  That will definitely send out the right energy and you will feel it and you will benefit from it, too! 

Try it!

 
Love,light, and peace,

Mambo Samantha Corfield
www.spellmaker.com

 

Is it okay if I.....

missed a day of my spell work, forgot to light the incense three days in a row, didn't do the reflection part of the spell, and, oh, didn't bother with the sand trail?  Is it okay, Mambo?  Will this mess up my spell work?

Greetings everyone!

Hardly a day goes by that I don't get someone asking me something "messing up" their spell work because of things they did or didn't do.  Mostly it is after the fact and often is phrased as, "Is it okay that I......?"

Frankly, no, not really, it isn't okay.  For sure things happen sometimes that we cannot control.  However, a lot of what I hear that people did was completely avoidable.  First off, READ the spell kit instructions.  Getting four days into the spell work and figuring out that you forgot a step is really avoidable.  Read the spell kit instructions; read them before you ever start the spell and get your questions answered.  Then, use the instructions.  I don't see how people miss steps when the instructions are clearly meant to be used. You don't have to memorize anything - you follow along the book.

Life can be hectic and get in the way of our spell work!  No one knows that better than me!  Like I said, sometimes it is totally unavoidable to miss parts of spell work, emergencies happen, etc. Truthfully, though, about 95% of the things that people do to mess up their spell work is avoidable.  Be careful and thoughtful about what you are doing.  If you truly, in your heart of hearts, want what you say you want from the spell work, then you should be extremely careful and dedicated to what you are doing.

You have to ask yourself, if I don't care enough to do this spell work right, do I truly want what I think I want? If you feel like the spell is too much work, or too hard to do, or takes too much of your time - do you absolutely, truly want what you think you want?   As most of you know, we do, of course, offer solo castings for those folks who cannot do their own spell work for one reason or another.  That is fine!  But even at that, we send you a Holy Relic card to work with and I cannot believe the number of people who tell me they never used it and, "is that okay?"  NO. It's not okay.  You are sending out a very mixed message to Les Lois, God, and even me about what you want!

A large part of the success of spell work depends on YOU; what do you want, why do you want it, and do you really want it?  What energy are you putting out there?  Please think about that the next time you pick up your work to do it.  If you think your spell work or adjunct work is a pain in your butt and you dread doing it, you should give some serious thought to the goal you think you want.

Have a great weekend, everyone!

Love, light, and peace,
Mambo Samantha Corfield
www.spellmaker.com

 

Cookin' up a spell!

Hello everyone!

Happy Monday!!!  :-)  So recently I had the pleasure of cooking dinner for some dear friends of ours.  It's "that" time of year so I was able to make spaghetti sauce from fresh pasta tomatoes grown in my mother-in-law Eileen's garden - use fresh herbs, peppers, etc. 

In the midst of all that chopping, pureeing, stirring, etc., it struck me how much cooking was just like doing a spell (with a slight homage to Cajun Voodoo Love Cookin').   First of all, I had to want to cook this meal as perfectly as I could.  I couldn't just do it because I had to, or said I would.  It truly had to be a labor of love or that sauce would NOT come out right. (Hats off to my Dad for that one!)

Second, I had to concentrate and think on what I wanted the outcome to be.  In order to make this meal truly special I had to visualize the joy that it would bring and the love that it would show.  I cooked this just for you, because I love you, and I want you to see that love in what I am offering you.  Nothing could be closer to being spell work without being spell work!

Third, I had to take care with what I was doing; I had to check my ratios of tomatoes to garlic to peppers to onions. I had to make sure I stirred at the right time, checking to make sure nothing was burning, and get my timing right.

In the end, the meal was as perfect as I could make it!  Notice I said as perfect as I could make it?  Not necessarily perfect, maybe something wasn't exactly right, maybe I might have made a mistake.  However, I knew that I had done my personal best - the end result was going to be loved because I knew that those good folks would know that something had been made especially for them and that THEY had been at the forefront of my thoughts the whole time I was preparing the meal.

So approach your spell work the same way!  Care about what you are doing, follow the instructions to the best of your ability, and visualize the loving end result! Don't just go through the motions of your spell work because you have to, or the instructions said so, or Mambo said so!  Do it because you want to! You will feel happy and satisfied and you will know that no matter what the outcome, you did your very best!  That is success in a very special way!

Love,light, and peace,
Mambo Samantha Corfield
www.spellmaker.com

Is your spellwork too much work?

“Opportunity is missed by most people because it comes dressed in overalls and looks like work.”

— Thomas Edison

Greetings, everyone!  I know we have talked about this before - the work of spellwork!  However, I do think the subject can be revisited over and over again and still be of value!

All too often I hear people say that they think things like our spell kits are "just too much work." It is always a sign-inducing, eye-rolling moment for me because that statement generally comes from someone who just told me they would do ANYTHING to get Jack (or Jill) back into their lives.  But that is an extreme example - there are also smaller examples:  Those folks who just don't want to do another doll session or light another candle... they are just sick of spell work at the moment. 

Now that is something different!  Sometimes a little break from spell work is a good thing.  It gives you time to refresh your spirit,look at the spellwork with fresh eyes, and regain your energy.  The best way to take a break from spell work is during the break to assess the break itself; are you feeling good about the break?  Are you feeling that this is a time for you to renew yourself and your purpose? The biggest danger in taking a break sometimes comes in the form of not knowing when the break should be over.

I always tell the folks to whom I recommend a break to be on the look out for signs that their break is over.  If you are longing for your voodoo doll, or you start to miss the comfort and ritual of your candle magick, or you feel an incredible pull back into the work - those kinds of things are clear signs that your break is over!

Lately I have been literally bombarded with stories of clients and the success of their spellwork!  :-)  Needless to say, that is always amazingly awesome to hear!  As I have mentioned before, I do notice a very common thread in these success stories - these are very often folks who were dedicated to that work, had a real heart for it, and stuck to their guns even in the face of adversity.  Their success is inspiring!

So if the spellwork is seeming too much like work, then yes, take a small break, but never take your eye off the prize! ;-)

Love,light, and peace,
Mambo Samantha Corfield
www.spellmaker.com

 

Punching the alien.

Happy Monday, everyone!

 I hope that each and every one of you had a great weekend.  :-)  Okay so besides the obvious humor of the picture above, it really did get me thinking a lot about how some of my clients approach their spell work.  Nice folks have a tendency to do "nice" spell work - I never see them punch the alien in the face! Unfortunately, that doesn't always get the best result.  Sometimes the alien needs a punch in the face. Now of course I am speaking metaphorically, but all the time I get Heart's Desire letters that are so sweetly and nicely written but I don't feel the fire, the passion, the real HEART'S DESIRE.  In other words, sometimes I think your petitions are written just too politely.

Now that is not to say that a politely, nicely-written petition won't work, but every once in awhile, if your case is a difficult one, you might need to punch the alien in the face!  Get stronger in your wording, don't be afraid to shout from the spiritual rooftops what you want, how you want it, and when you want it.

Polite always has a place in this world.  However, sometimes, you need to be stronger, get grittier, and down and dirty and tell us how you really feel. ;-)

Love,light, and peace,
Mambo Samantha Corfield
www.spellmaker.com

Love Potion #9 Will Be Available!

Wheee!!!  Okay, there was a really good response from those of you who would like me to go ahead and make the Love Potion #9 on 09/09/09.  :-) 

Now, of course, as most of you know, generally we simply offer the recipe on our website and everyone makes their own batch of potion as desired. However, we just couldn't resist the idea of making this on 09/09/09 - I mean, we won't get another chance at this in our lifetimes, so that made it pretty irresistible! :-)

After thinking about it for awhile, what I have decided to do is pressure can it. I can a lot of vegetables, soups, salsa, etc., and so I have a pressure canner and so will end up sealing this potion in 8 ounce jars. This is going to help us all out a lot because it will preserve it much longer than the usual recommended one year to keep this potion!

Realistically speaking, I feel that I can only successfully make about 40 jars for it to be effective. I need to make the potion itself within that 9:00 a.m. hour - so however much I can make in an hour will be what we will have. I am sort of guessing at the 40 jars, but I feel confident I can make that much for sure. The canning process itself will obviously take longer, but the batches would already be made and just needing to be canned.

I have pasted in below the information that I just put up on the website about the potion, buying the potion, etc. Of course, as with everything we sell, we will include an instruction sheet with the jars of potion.

Naturally, you can still make this potion yourself, as usual! The information about the potion itself, the recipe, and the way to buy the potion is located at www.spellmaker.com/potion9.htm.

Here is the information from the website:

Information concerning purchasing our special batch of 09/09/09 Love Potion #9: (Please read carefully so that you understand what you are getting!)

Mambo Sam will make a big batch of this potion on 09/09/09. Normally, we do not make and/or sell this potion - we recommend that everyone make their own.

However, since we won't get another chance in our life time to do this again on this amazing date, we have decided to make a batch this year and offer it to those who want it.

Please be aware that normally we would never sell anything that is edible or meant to be taken internally in any way, this will be an exception to that rule! Because we are not licensed to sell anything that anyone would eat or drink, by your purchase of this item you are accepting that this was made in a home kitchen, under extremely clean and as sterile as possible, circumstances.

To further insure the viability and storage of the potion, Mambo Sam will can the potion with a pressure canner. This will preserve it for maximum freshness and the potion will more than likely last much longer than one year. Your potion will come in a heat sealed, 8 ounce glass jar. Until you break the seal, the potion will keep for quite some time!

You will have the option to have her consecrate your particular bottle of potion just in your name (so you decide later upon whom you want to use it) OR in the name of you and someone specific OR have it consecrated for someone else entirely (for instance, if you wanted to give it to someone as a gift).

Since these will be pressure sealed, you will have the option to buy more than one jar in order to keep it longer safely.

We are asking that you order this product separately, apart from other products, and then email us at customerservice@spellmaker.com and tell us how you want your jar(s) consecrated once you have paid for it.

Love, light, and peace,
Mambo Samantha Corfield
www.spellmaker.com

Universal Love - Live it, Love it!

 

Think about this!  What is the message there?  Is love available to everyone?  Are we all taking the time to actually feel that love and the warmth of it?  How accepting of love are we really?  If we cannot experience Universal Love and love of one's self, can we truly experience romantic love?  Just asking!  Love to hear your opinions.  Remember everyone, you can read everyone's comments and make your own simply by clicking on the "comments" link below each individual post.  :-)

Love, Mambo Sam
www.spellmaker.com

More on Love Poems and Petitions

Hello everyone!  Happy Monday.  :-)  In looking over some more love poetry on the internet, I found this poem below.  Now, this one goes along with the idea from yesterday's post about "I Miss You" and petitioning with the idea that we miss someone.   So if you can't or don't feel like writing your own poetry to use in your adjunct work (work you do with love dolls, candles,, etc.) then look for poems that fit what you are trying to do.

For instance, this poem below is about wishing to be with someone. I think it is perfect to use with spell work aimed towards someone you are not with or not with very much but want to be!

Additionally, there is something very powerful about a poem like this one. The word "wish" is extremely powerful and reminds the person that you are working on that you have a strong spiritual desire to be with them. Just the very word "wish" has its own magickal properties! :-)

I love this poem below for spell work!  It is very powerful and I think very heartfelt by the person who wrote it.  You can just FEEL that this person wants to be there very strongly!

Love,light, and peace,
Mambo Samantha Corfield
www.spellmaker.com

I Wish I Was There
By Jesse Shawano 

I wish I was there,
To kiss you Goodnight.
I wish I was there,
To hold you so tight.
I wish I was there,
To gaze into your face.
And wonder why angels,
Have come to this place.

I wish I was there,
To talk all night long.
Or sit in the presence,
Of the one that I love.
I wish I was there,
To tell you I care.
I wish I was there,
To tell you,
"You captured my heart"
And "You'll always be there."

I Miss You!

Hello everyone!
Happy Sunday! I hope each and every one of you does something lovely for yourself today.

So what about, "I miss you!" I was looking over some correspondence from an old friend yesterday and throughout it, she kept saying, "I miss you!" It made me think, does anyone ever say that when they are petitioning for someone to return to them? Just plain old, "I miss you."

When I was re-reading some of these old letters, I realized that I really got a little pang in my heart as my friend repeated that she missed me. I missed her, too. Even though I already realized it, her verbalization of it made me realize it even more.

I certainly believe that if you are using something such as a love doll, which makes for a direct link to the person you are working on, telling them that you miss them, you miss their touch, you miss the times when you_______________(whatever you want to say), has the potential for having a great impact on them!

First off, everyone wants to feel as if they are missed when they are away. Even if you have no contact with your love (or maybe especially if you have no contact with your love), reminding them that you MISS them, you miss your time together, you miss his/her voice, etc., just has to have positive effect on them. Second, I think this is something we might often forget to say. We get so wrapped up in doing love spell work and sending and receiving love energy, that something as simple as, "I miss you" might elude us. ;-)

So try it! For those of you whom I haven't seen in awhile - I miss you! Never forget that! I really, truly do. I wish we were together more often. :-)

Love, light, and peace,
Mambo Samantha Corfield
www.spellmaker.com

Love Poems as Petitions

Hello everyone! I hope your weekend is going great! A lot of times I hear from clients that they feel like they are running out of things to say during their petitions; that perhaps they are just saying things by rote and they seem to have lost their zing!

One thing I encourage people to do is write a nice poem and make that their petition. But not everyone is a poet! :-) That is okay, a quick search on the internet for "love poems" will yield you a treasure trove of good (and some not so good) love poems.

Back in the days of chat class, we talked a bit about how rhythm and cadence and rhyme exist in almost all spell work. Poetry, of course, falls right into that category! A great number of love poems seem like they were written for spell work! :-) Take this one for instance:
A Special World

A special world for you and me
A special bond one cannot see
It wraps us up in its cocoon
And holds us fiercely in its womb.

Its fingers spread like fine spun gold
Gently nestling us to the fold
Like silken thread it holds us fast
Bonds like this are meant to last.

And though at times a thread may break
A new one forms in its wake
To bind us closer and keep us strong
In a special world, where we belong.

- Sheelagh Lennon -

This poem would be lovely to use with your love doll Or just imagine using this when doing candle magick work, especially if you were doing work with candles representing each of you! Oh or even during something such as a love bath! It would be wonderful.

Even if this poem is not your cup of tea, that is fine. There are tons of them out there or write your own. It is not that the poem is meant to replace regular petitioning, but it could certainly spice up and strengthen it.

As I find more good ones, I will certainly post them here!

Love, light, and peace,
Mambo Samantha Corfield
www.spellmaker.com

Are You Afraid to Love Completely?

Happy Friday, everyone!
Very often my clients tell me that they are "afraid to love" completely. Now, of course, we all fear being hurt. Many of us will hold back and not give ourselves fully into loving someone at first. We want to wait... we want to see if our feelings are returned. Putting it out there fully and completely is quite scary!

However... and this is a BIG however, if you are doing love spell work and yet you are afraid to give your heart completely then you may be running a very real risk of sabotaging your own spell work!

Think about this: If you are approaching the relationship you are trying to get or fix with fear, holding some of your feelings back, and being afraid that you might get hurt, then what kind of energy are you putting into your spell work? What you put into your spell work is most often what you get out of it. If you are putting fear and holding back your love because you might get hurt, then that is likely what you will get back.

Perfect love spell work must be done in perfect love. Now, spell work doesn't have to be perfect to work for you! Hey, we all make mistakes, and there is a certain level of "accident forgiveness" built into our spell work. However, it is really important to think about how YOU are feeling towards the relationship you are trying to be in. Are you angry? Are you afraid? Are you afraid to truly love that person because you may never get them? What if I told you that you may never get the because you are afraid to truly love them???

There are those among us who feel like it is not worth it to fully love someone. It is too risky. We might get hurt. We might get dumped. We might not get that love returned to us. However, if you are not willing to take the risk then you can never reap the wonderful, incredible, dizzying rewards of truly being in love. The old saying that, "It is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all" is just so true.

There is no more powerful emotion than love. If you are not willing to allow yourself to experience it, even if it seems one-sided right now, then you are doing yourself (and your spell work) a terrible disservice.

If you feel that perhaps you have been this person, I would like to suggest that you do something about it! :-) There is no point in getting upset if this has been you. Instead, make yourself the promise to no longer be that person! If you have been deeply afraid or angry or half-hearted in allowing yourself to love the person you want to be in a relationship with, then I am going to suggest that you do something such as Erzulie Freda's Love Bath or perhaps some pink gender candles (in the gender of each of you - you and the person you want to be with) and ask that you allow yourself to feel this love again! Petition that you will not be a blockage to your own feelings of love, that even though right now those feelings might be bittersweet, you will allow yourself to feel them, relish them, wallow in them! THEN start back on your spell work or adjunct work - whatever you are working on right now.

Think of doing something like your love doll with the pulsing ecstasy of love that truly beats in your heart for your special person! Even if you feel like your love is one-sided right now, love is still a positive emotion! Allow yourself to feel it, really feel it, and then go do a love doll session or a candle session.

Trust me, I know that this can be a painful journey sometimes. But don't sabotage it by not allowing yourself to fully commit to the love that you want. Your love is real, so really feel it!

Love, light, and peace,
Mambo Samantha Corfield
www.spellmaker.com

Sex Magick! It's a great enhancement to spell work!

Happy Saturday,people!
As most of you know, we are now finally offering sex magick. Participants in our 2008 Albuquerque Voodoo Convention were able to preview and buy these sex magick products at the convention and quite a few of them have written us to let us know how well they have worked for them! ;-)

Sex magick is something that is quite ancient in occult practices. There are all kinds of sex magick concentrating on different areas of sexual energy: Creation, love, passion,etc. Our sex magick is mainly being used to enhance or encourage a sexual relationship. This is a very powerful type of adjunct work for those who have already done (or are doing) love spell magick.

The intimate relationship between a couple is, needless to say, an extremely important part of their love relationship. In many of our clients' cases, the intimate relationship has been damaged in some way or perhaps no longer even exists. Sex magick is very helpful in concentrating energy into the parts of the Higher Self that rule passion, creation, and sexual desire.

Of course, there is also the sex magick that is designed to break up the sexual relationship of a couple. This is where one needs to exercise a bit of caution! It is also important to remember that just because you break up the sexual relationship of a couple does not necessarily mean that your desired half of that couple immediately comes running to you! So, just like most good magick, sex magick is done in stages.

Most importantly, sex magick is meant to represent the most intimate energies of a loving couple. Sex magick is not meant for coercing or forcing sex from a person. But if you use it, just as you would use love spell magick, to send that message of love and intimacy to your desired partner, then you are on the right track.

Of course then, you have to ask, "What if I don't have a "desired partner?" What if I just want to feel more sexually attractive or I am out there "just looking" and want to attract sexual partners? Can I use sex magick?"

Absolutely! The sex magick we crafted can definitely be used for that purpose! If you are out there and looking to see what you can find and perhaps you don't feel sexually attractive, or someone has damaged your self esteem so that you don't feel like you could enjoy or perform sexually any more, then you can definitely benefit from the sex magick as well!

So have a look! Oh, and did I mention, sex magick is fun! :-) It's empowering and makes you feel sexy just doing it!

The new sex magick page is located at www.spellmaker.com/sexmagick.htm. (Everything is 25% off right now with Free Shipping!!!!)

He Hurt Me But I Want Him Back!

Greetings everyone!
Needless to say, every single day I deal with a situation, a spell casting, or a consultation which involves someone who has been hurt by someone else. Sometimes the hurt was unintentional,but still hurt like hell. Sometimes it was completely intentional and hurts like even deeper hell. But no matter what, the sad truth of what I do is dealing with peoples' hurt, sorrow, trauma, and pain.

Of course there are times when I look at someone's case and wonder, "Why the heck does she want him back?" Or why does he want her back? Or whatever the gender... really that doesn't matter much, actually!

Nonetheless, it is my job to do what you, the client, asks me to do, and so that is what I try to do. BUT when is enough enough? When is the time to look at a situation and tell you that I think you are just punishing yourself, or that you don't really want a relationship, or why would you let someone hurt you like that and then take them back? What are the criteria for doing that? Obviously, if I think someone is horrible for you and cannot ever be trusted again, I am going to tell you that. But what do you think?

I am not here to answer the questions this time, I am here to ask them: What acts do you think are unforgiveable? At what point does a person not deserve for you to take them back? When would you just say NO to a person who wanted to return to you, even if you thought they had changed?

I ask this because I want to reach out there and see what you all are thinking. Have the rules changed? I see lots of clients, women especially, who will take back someone who had done tremendous emotional damage to them. Granted, most of them want this man (or woman) to have healed and atone for what they have done. However, I wonder if they will really forgive them, even with the change. Can they really take them back? Is there that much forgiveness out there?

I would love to hear your opinions on this!

Love,
Mambo Sam

Do you refuse to let us help you?

Hello everyone!
Happy Monday! For those of you having a long weekend, I hope you are doing something fun and relaxing.

Today I am writing about a concern I have for so many of you. I am not sure how to really approach this subject because it is going to sound like I am fussing at some of you and that is not my intention. All I (and our staff) want to do is help you! But I am genuinely concerned at how many of you recently simply will not accept the help, will not take the suggestions and guidance offered to you, and completely refuse to do anything to help yourself.

I don't know if there is something in the water or what, but despite the best efforts of myself, caseworkers, chat operators, office staff, etc., there seems to be quite a group of you out there right now who insist on continuing to be in abject misery while your spell castings are going on or while you are in your waiting period.

Interestingly, this is not those of you who have long term cases! These are some of you who are either in the middle of spell work or are just a couple of months into a waiting period. BUT you have been mostly that way since the beginning of your spell work, hardly ever having been willing to take a positive attitude, do anything to remove the negativity from yourself, and you spend hours obsessing and crying and generally freaking out over your case.

No matter how much we tell you that you are pouring the wrong energy into your case, you refuse to listen. So let me say this: We are worried about you. You are turning your spell work in the opposite direction of where you want it to go. You are creating your own negative outcome. :-( It is painful to watch you. It is painful to see you spend time, money, and effort on something only to directly sabotage it.

Frankly, I am reduced to begging you to please stop being so negative. Please do something to relieve some of your misergy! Pray the prayers of your religion, do some white candle magick on yourself, take a white bath, watch a funny movie, compartmentalize your grief (allow yourself an hour to be dramatically grieving and then go do something else), help someone else who is worse off than you (the best medicine ever for making yourself feel better), etc. Please, all I am asking you to do is TRY. No one is going to be positive 100% of the time. We are all going to have bad days and times when we just feel hopeless. But some of you are letting that hopelessness rule your life. It will ruin you. It will ruin your spell work.

Your caseworker is happy to help you work through some strategies to make you feel better. However, many of them are reporting to me that certain people just refuse to be helped. :-( You may not believe this, but it hurts us to see you this way. We actually do care what happens to you. We do all of this because we care. However, you have to care about you, too. Like I said, I am reduced to begging you: Please let us help you to help yourself.

Love and prayers for all of you,
Mambo Samantha Corfield

Is Depression Ruining Your Case?

Greetings everyone!  I wanted to talk to you all just a moment about depression.  For many of you who are either doing our love spells or are in the waiting period after having done love spells, depression can often set in.  Sometimes you might be depressed because you have even had to do love spells in the first place!  Sometimes you might be depressed because now that you have done them you aren't sure when or even IF they will work for you.  Sometimes you might be depressed because the person you have been working your magick on isn't responding just yet. 

No matter what the reason, though, for sure depression can have a detrimental effect on your love spells!  Now I know for sure that we are all going to be sad sometimes, especially when we are not with the one person we want to be with.  However, too much of that sadness really sends out a negative energy.  I have people writing and telling me that they are "crying day and night" because they are not with the person they have done the love spells on.  While I do feel great compassion for this, I also know that crying day and night is in no way helping to bring the person closer to you. In fact, it may be doing quite the opposite.

I would like to encourage each and every one of you to please try to do something to uplift your spirits.  And, yes, I know it isn't easy.  I am not trying to sound cavalier or like everyone should have a Pollyanna mood.  However, I want you to get what you want from your love spell casting!  So I tell you this for your own good:  Too much crying and depression is not good for your case!  I know I have talked about it before, but I think it bears repeating.  If you feel depressed and sad over your case, try to compartmentalize those feelings. Promise yourself an hour a day to be sad, depressed, and even crying if you need to.  Then promise yourself that will be it for that day - you will always have that hour tomorrow to do it all over again.  Once that hour of sadness and crying has gone by, you must promise yourself that you will then do something productive and positive even if it is take a bath and fix your hair a different way!

Obviously this isn't always going to work.  Each of us has days that we just can't seem to shake the blues away from.  But I do urge you to try and see how much better you start to feel after a few days. 

Love to you all!  Mambo Sam

The Za Za Zsu - In the Pink!

Hello everyone!  Well, with the new Sex and the City movie in the theatres now, I am reminded of how many letters I used to receive referencing different themes and characters on the television show.  Whether you loved, hated, or could have cared less about the show, many of our clients often saw themselves or their relationships correlated in the episodes of the show.  I definitely had a love-hate relationship with the show as I wearied of otherwise intelligent women telling me that they were "so Carrie."  ;-)

At any rate, there was an episode talking about the "za za zsu" in a successful relationship; that crazy, romantic, fabulous time period when intimacy between a couple was warm, exciting, and extremely close and loving.  :-)   In other words, romantic sex appeal - not just the instinct and desire to have sex with someone, but the desire to have that sex with the person who was special to you.

I started thinking about this the other day when I was preparing candle magick kits for shipping.  Red male candle magick kits were flying out the door!   Passionate love!  And believe me there is nothing wrong with that.  But it got me to thinking, what about the romance?

What about those pink male candle magick kits?  ;-)  I wanted to share with you part of a letter I received a couple of months ago from a client.  Here it is:

"...and even though Teddy and I have been doing okay after I finished my spell kits, I really felt like we were missing romance in our life.  He is a scientist and spends his day proving and disproving scientific theory for a lab.  He can sometimes be very unromantic simply because he is someone who is very practical.  Anyway, I went ahead and got the BMS pink male candle magick kits.  When I was doing them I put some Abre Camino oil on the candle too and paid some special attention to the genital area (sorry for being so graphic).  I petitioned that the next time we were making love that he would feel warm and romantic.  I pictured us melting into each other just like the candle was melting.  About a week after I finished up the trio we were being intimate when he suddenly looked at me and said, "I feel like I am melting into you."  I was so shocked that I almost started laughing and crying at the same time.  Luckily we were so busy that he didn't notice..."

I thought that was a pretty amazing letter!  Just the idea of even using the petition to be melting into each other just like the candle was melting was pretty innovative, I thought.  Sometimes we get so wrapped up in trying to bring someone's love to us, we forget that most of us want something warm and fuzzy in that love, too.   Although this particular client was already with her HD, I don't see any reason that a person couldn't do the pink candle magick kits in this way even if you aren't already with them.   Bringing up romantic images of you in your HD's mind can only help your case! 

There is a pretty fine distinction when we are talking about love and romance.  Of course we want our partner to love us!  But I am sure plenty of you know both men and women who may love quite well, but have missed the mark in the romance department.  If you are a person who also wants to make sure that romance stays alive in the relationship you are working on, I would suggest throwing a little pink candle magick into it!  Maybe soon you will be melting in his arms, too, and feeling that za za zsu!  ;-)

Love, Mambo Sam

Because You Needed to Know... That's Why!

Hello everyone!  Quite often many of our clients, at some point during their love spell casting, find out things regarding the person they are working on.  A great deal of the time these things may seem like "bad" or "undesirable" things.  However, most of the time these things are found out because you need to know.

In some cases you find out that there is another person involved that you didn't know about, sometimes it is something about the person's past that may be what is keeping them from you; there can be many, many things that one finds out.

For most people, finding out these things sends them into a tailspin.  Suddenly there is a lot of negative thinking and worry that the spells aren't working, or that they aren't going to get what they want, etc., etc., etc.  But the truth is that most often you NEED to know these things.  Our spell work is not meant to sweep problems under the rug and give you the illusion that everything is okay and you are getting together with the person.  Our spell work is meant to seek out and bring to light what the REAL problems are so that you can deal with them and stand a real chance of being with the person.

Many of you have often heard me say that "spell work brings the truth to light whether you want it to or not."  It is the absolute truth.  Of course none of us wants to hear bad news or negative things, especially in regards to our relationships.  But if we are working on a difficult relationship with our spell work, then it is imperative to know what the real problems and challenges are.  How you deal with the knowledge is most important.

What seems like "negative news" is often Les Lois (the spirits of the Vodou religion) letting you know that "this" is something you need to work on; they are showing you the heart of the challenges of your relationship and letting you know that you still need to work on this subject.  Going downhill and getting depressed and freaking out at these things really isn't going to help.  Figuring them into your spell work and adjunct work such as candle magick work, love doll work, etc. IS the thing to do with any kind of information that you get.  So when information is brought to you about the person you are working your magick on, think about why you are getting it!

Now don't misunderstand me, I am completely empathetic to the fact that sometimes it just plain old hurts to find out things that you didn't know about your intended partner.  I am not saying that you aren't going to sad or upset.  But unless it is something horrible like he is a serial killer or pedophile (in which case you are being brought that information so that you can RUN AWAY as fast as you can), then you should use that information to properly configure your spell work to account for what you have learned.  Try as best you can to channel all that hurt and upset into something positive such as working on the situation.

Nobody likes to hear bad news, but just try to remember that sometimes it isn't bad news, it is just information that you need to get your case on track.  :-)

Love, Mambo Sam

Erzulie Freda Packages

Good morning, everyone.  A number of you have asked about the Valentine's Packages that were done on the point of Erzulie Freda.  Because of so many requests, we have decided to continue offering these packages on a regular basis.  For now, you can still purchase them on the Erzulie Freda Page.  We will be reworking this page so that it doesn't just reflect Valentine's Day!  It will contain the products dedicated to Erzulie Freda as well as more information on service to our favorite Love Goddess!

If you haven't looked at my post on The Pink Bubble Meditation, please have a look.  It is a great meditation to use when working with Erzulie Freda. 

Love, Mambo Sam

Choosing a Love Spell Practitioner

So here you are thinking about using love spells as a tool to help a relationship situation!  You may have heard or read things that make you question whether or not this is a good decision for you.  Obviously, everyone's situation is different and has many variables to it.  However, it is good to remember that no matter what your troubling love situation is, there is spiritual assistance that may very well help when nothing else will.

I have found in my years of experience that people often come to the idea of using love spells when they feel that there is no other hope or choice for them.  I have to admit that I wish people came to love spells sooner, before the situation got terrible for them!  But, nonetheless, usually love spells are a last resort for most people.

But truthfully there is no reason to be nervous or afraid when using love spells - you just need to choose the right ones for you and your situation.  That can be a daunting task for the magickal beginner!  It is important to choose the right practitioner and the right kinds of spells for you.  The most important thing is that you feel comfortable and confident that you will be treated fairly and honestly; that the spells truly stand a chance of helping you.

It is pretty fashionable right now for spell casting sites to promise a "100% guarantee" and "we have never failed a client."  I strongly suggest that you stay away from those sites!!  No spell caster has ever had 100% success, nor even 99%.  If they guarantee you success, you should probably stay away from them.   But why??  It sounds really good, doesn't it??  Yes, it does.  However, if you stop to think about it, how could any practitioner have a 100% success rate?  I know that in my 30 years of practice, I have had many cases that did not come to fruition:  The client asked for something unreasonable, or didn't give me all the information about their case, or was working on someone of a different sexual presuasion, etc.  Any practitioner should have had these things happen to them - so how could they have a 100% success rate??  I mean, seriously, think about it:  You can't even get a doctor to guarantee you that a surgery will be a success or even that you won't die on the table!! 

In no way am I trying to imply that I am the only honest spell caster on the Internet!!!  What I am saying is that you should be careful - read websites very carefully, get all the information you can, and then make your decision!  Of course, there is no denying that we hope you will choose us, here at www.SPELLMAKER.com, but even if you don't, please make an informed choice.