Good morning everyone! As we continue on with our series on making healthy decisions, I wanted to stop for a moment and clarify what this series is all about. Many of my readers are those engaged in more esoteric studies - spells, spiritual growth, magickal endeavors, etc. Those readers are tending to put this exercise in that category. While it can be used in that way to some degree, this is meant to be about every day decision making. Some of the information may be useful in spell casting, but really it would be more useful deciding when or if to do spell casting, not so much to assist you with the actual process. :-)
Our next question to ask ourselves when making a decison is:
What Really Matters?
This can be extremely beneficial. Taking the time to figure out what really matters to you is crucial to making a good decision. For some of us, we think that everything matters equally - we are passionate about every little thing. On the surface, this can seem admirable; when you look a little deeper you will see that this means that we treat all things equally. It is very difficult to live successfully in this way. Prioritzing things in your life will make you more organized, let you know when to pick your battles (and not everything is worth a battle - really, it isn't), and allow you to let go of certain things in order to accomplish other, more important, things.
For most people, beings with emotional capabilities will come first - children, spouses, parents, friends, pets, etc. For some, they themselves will come first. After those obvious choices, what really matters after that? Understanding what your priorities are and how your decision impacts them will allow you to weed out things that don't matter and leave you with a clearer understanding of what your decision needs to be.
For instance, is your job the means by which you take care of the things that are most important (money) or is there another way that you care for those things (emotionally, perhaps)? If you say yes to the former, then job decisions are going to be weighed against the impact on others. If you say yes to the latter, then job decisions may be based entirely on other criteria.
Therefore, deciding what really matters to you will help you in making a healthy decision. :-)
Love, light, and peace,
Mambo Samantha Corfield, www.spellmaker.com