Past, Present, and Future
OK, so here's my question...Can you look toward the Future, if you are still Present in the Past?
"Hmmm...never really thought about it before...I'm not sure...," you might say. Well, when it comes to spell work, the answer is NO. OK, now before you all email Mambo and tell her that Candelaria has gone 'round that all important bend (I mean, come on, that's just crazy talk!), let me explain. heehee
The truth of the matter is that many folks come to Voodoo for help after the situation has gotten really bad. Coming to us is kind of a last resort where, arms spread wide in disgust and shoulders shrugged to their ears, they will finally say, "I'm all out of options. I guess I'll try Voodoo." If this is you, don't feel badly at all, as this is how most folks come to us...when they have nowhere else to turn.
Now, when you finally do make that decision to try spell work as a solution, many times, there's already been a lot of water under the bridge. If you are doing work on a love case, there may have been arguments, late night drive-bys, lots of back and forth between the two of you...none of it good! You've been doing nothing but clashing and butting heads with this person for months, or even years! So, when you come to spell work, in addition to all of the problems that have come about between you, you have a certain amount of hurt and resentment that you could be carrying along with you. That's OK though, because you've finally found help through les lois and you can finally get things back on track. Yeah! Good for you!!
Here's the trick though, "My caseworker told me that I have to remain positive, but there's so much hurt between us! I want to show him/her how much they hurt me! How can I be positive about things when he/she has hurt me so badly??!" Well, here's the deal, when you make that all important decision to enlist the help of les lois through spell work, the day you begin casting your first spell is the first day of your relationship with this person. Wait...let me repeat that for the folks in the back row, THE DAY YOU CAST YOUR FIRST SPELL IS THE FIRST DAY OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH THIS PERSON. Before this, you didn't have les lois helping you and you were not working towards your goal magickally. However, now you are, sooo the playing field has changed and thus we have an entirely new game, and THIS IS DAY ONE. You must get past the pain of the past and look toward the future...it's all a clean slate! (Pretty cool, huh? I mean, how many times in life do you get a completely clean slate?)
OK, ya with me so far? Well, holding on to this negativity and pain of the past can honestly be a major problem, and it can block spell work. Sometimes, because we are presently stuck in the past, we can't move into the future. We are so mired in things that have gone down between us, that we can't get past it all. We bring it up time and time again. It is on our minds constantly. We rip that band-aid off over and over again and we never let it heal. It festers and grows, within us. Well, the truth of the matter is that we need to let it heal within ourselves, before the spell work can flow and the relationship can move forward. We need to stop ripping off the band-aid so that things can heal.
I know, I know, you've been putting all of your energy toward your love case and working on your HD, and the last thing you want to do is start working on yourself! Sheesh! Plus, let's face it, it's much easier to do work on someone else, than it is on yourself. However, sometimes, no matter how much work you're doing towards your love case, the most important work you need to do is healing within yourself. The spell work can't reach your HD if the pain and negativity you're carrying from the past is blocking it, right? It's kind of like shooting peas at an elephant. (it's going to take an awful lot of peas!)
Alright, so how??? I mean, it seems so beyond your control! You feel like you're boxed into this corner of despair and doom and you really don't know how to get out of it. No matter how hard you try, you can't shake the terrible pain of the past, things that were said, things that were done, hurt, sorrow, longing to be understood. "Candi, you have no idea what you're asking me to do!" Well, yes, I do. I was a client once myself and I know exactly what I'm asking you to do and I also know that it isn't easy! But, I also know that it can be done and that it MUST be done, in order for things to move forward in your case. You cannot look toward the future, if you are presently mired down in the pain of the past. That's honestly just the way it is! The good news is that there are ways to heal yourself and get past all of this, so that it doesn't block your spell work. You can do a Lady Samantha Hex Removal Spell Kit (since hurt and pain, built up over time, can act as if a hex has been placed on you), a Milk of Damballah White Bath, a trio of White Image Candle Magick Kits, and/or a Cosmic Voodoo Healing Egg. You can even try a combination of a few or all of these products, as they are crafted to help you with healing and to help you get past the pain.
Look, I know that this not easy. Nothing worth having ever is. But, I also know that this can be done. Healing work done on yourself, is actually the most rewarding and most important work you can do. Remember, we are all spiritual beings having a human experience. One of the most rewarding things you can do is to help yourself to have the best human experience possible, AND help your spell work to progress forward. Heal yourself of the pains of the past, so that you can start presently looking toward the future! It can make all the difference in the world!
Light and much love,
Candelaria
http://www.spellmaker.com/
