So, What Are You Waiting For???

Hi Everyone,

      

Here's a little scenario you might be familiar with, so I wanted to take a few moments to talk about it:

       

Alrightie, so you've been doing spell work.  You cast the spells and you worked really, really hard on them. You put all that you could of your own personal power into them, to bring about the final outcome you desire.  So, when the last spell was completed, after all that hard work, you thought, "WHEW!  Finally, I'm done!  Now what?"  So, you emailed your caseworker only to be informed that you are in what we call "the waiting period," which is the time after all spells are completed, when you are waiting for your spells to manifest on the physical plane.  During this time, many of our clients do chose to continue working on their cases with adjunct work, to add to the energy that was already put out there with the spell work, and to help things along, which is perfectly fine and in most cases encouraged.  There's nothing wrong with wanting your spell work to manifest as quickly as possible, and adjunct work can give it a little kick in the pants! ;-)

      

However, this can also be such a special time with much to offer you while you wait for your goals to manifest.  You see, spell casting, as much as it might be done by some for purely magickal reasons and as a means to a desired end, is also a spiritual endeavor.  "HUH?  WHAT???!"  Yep, that's right!  Just the act of engaging in spell work helps to open you up more spiritually and if you welcome it, it can bring so many blessings into your life.  However, what many of us do during this delicate time is chose a different path.  Instead of looking inward and reflecting on the spell work and all that it has caused to manifest within us, as the spell caster, and instead of looking toward all of the blessings it has already brought to us, many become so strongly focused on the spell work and on the goal they petitioned for, that nothing else in their life seems to matter.  They can think of nothing but waiting for their spell work to manifest. 

      

For instance, if love spells were cast and your ultimate goal is to be in a loving relationship with the target of your spell work (or your HD/Heart's Desire) then often times you can become so fixated on the other person that nothing else in your life holds any meaning for you.  I know that sounds strange, but it is such an easy trap to fall into!  You must know what that person is thinking, feeling, and doing at all times.  You have multiple readings with Sister Bridget and consultations with Mambo Sam, because you simply can't stand for one second not to know what's going on with the other person.  You engage in drive-bys (never a good idea!), study their myspace and facebook pages as if they hold the exact location of the holy grail, and you ask anyone you have contact with that might be in the know, what's going on with them.  It's like all you can think about is your goal and how close you are to achieving it.  You become so fixated on this person and on your desire to have a relationship with this person, that nothing else in life matters...your job, your family, your friends...nothing else holds meaning but this person and realizing the manifestation of your spell work.  WHEW!  Boy Howdy, that's intense!!  And, it's an easy enough trap to fall into, especially when emotions are running so high and the stakes are even higher! 

      

I've seen this happen to many clients over the years, so I've come to recognize the signs.  Now, while this kind of behavior is not necessarily always bad, it certainly isn't good!  You need to have a life outside of your HD and outside of your spell work.  You still need to be present in your own life.  Your life is not put on hold because of the spell work (even though I know it feels like that sometimes).  The spell work is meant to augment your life with something or someone that can lend a little extra to it, but that person and having that person in your life, should not BE your life!!  That's simply not how it was meant to be and it's just plain unhealthy!  You were meant to embrace each day of this human experience and all that it has to bring to you.  You were not meant to fixate on one person or one event or one thing so much so that all the days up until having that person or that thing come into your life are just empty moments spent waiting for it all to begin.  That is not what you intended for this human experience to be at all!! 

    

Now, some of you may say, "yes, I get what you're saying Sister Candi, but I can't let go for one second.  If I don't hang on to what I want this tightly then there will be less chance that I will get it!"  Weeeeelll, I get what you're saying, but that's not really true.  There is such a thing as strangling the situation.  Its sort of like wanting and fixating on the other person so much that you're putting out this forceful energy that then can sometimes cause them to withdraw from you.  It's human nature to withdraw from something you think is being imposed upon you, and putting forth that kind of energy toward your HD and the situation, can cause that person to back up a bit from all of it.  Now, I'm not saying that always happens, but I have seen it happen quite a few times and if this is allowed to continue it can put your goal further out of reach.  YIKES!!  That's not what you want to do at all!

       

So, why do I bring all of this up?  Well, basically to tell you that it's OK to let up on your goal a bit.  Just because you aren't living, eating and breathing your ultimate goal 24/7 doesn't mean you won't have that goal.  In fact, there is definitely something to be said for putting out that energy and putting forth to the lwa what you want to have happen, and then stepping back and letting it breathe.  It can sometimes be a very good thing!!  So, does this mean you shouldn't be doing adjunct work toward your goal?  Absolutely not!  Adjunct work is very important in many cases, but once you've done the work, don't just sit back analyzing every little thing to see if it's working.  You've done the work (spell work, candle magick, love doll work, whatever it may be.), so do a session and then go and do something else for a bit that's non-case related. 

   

A very dear friend, who was my caseworker when I began this journey, our precious Orleanna, used to say of spell work, "Set it and forget it."  I know you've all heard us say that phrase a million times, and I'm not sure if she coined it, but she was the first one I heard it from, so in my book it's hers.  LOL  And you know what? She was right!  So, yes, cast the spells, ask for the help of the lwa, put your personal power into your goal.  Do all the adjunct work you want and keep working with your gris-gris bags toward your goal, BUT PLEASE CONTINUE TO LIVE YOUR LIFE.  Have fun, Go out with friends.  Enjoy your family.  Get involved in a volunteer organization or take a class at the local college.  Go out and enjoy a sunny day!  Not only will it be better and more healthy for you, but it's better for your HD and your spell work as well.  Plus, when that person does ultimately come to you in the name of love, you will be a well-rounded interesting person with so much to offer them.  They will have to marvel at what an amazing person you are and how much you have to bring to the relationship.  It will make them want you all the more!!  (not such a bad thing, huh?!) ;-)

          

OK, so that's the deal.  Hey, I know this is difficult.  The stuff that really matters in this life always is!  If it was easy, everyone would be doing it. ;-) 

         

In closing, I want to share with you a quote from Abraham (a group of spiritual beings who come to us as teachers through Esther and Jerry Hicks). Abraham often has some interesting things to say about how we make things manifest in our lives and I think this quote is particularly good for those among us waiting for the results of spell work to manifest.  I bring it to you with much love, in the hopes that it will speak to you as much as it did to me...

            

"Could I think too little about my desire, for it to manifest?" Actually, no, because as the contrast launches the desire, and then you do not offer any opposing thought, then you're letting it in, and it will manifest. Many of our physical friends really believe that they must find a desire and then hold tenaciously to it. And we say, you do not need to do that. Let the variety of your life keep balance in your life. You just concentrate more on holding yourself in the good-feeling place where you're letting it in."  -Abraham, as channeled through Esther Hicks. 

            

Light and so very much love,

Sister Candelaria

http://www.spellmaker.com/

Comments

[Sister Bridget]

Sistah! I love this post! It reminded me of this quote I have tacked to my desk at work (my full time work) , because so often at work what I plan and what the rest of the world plans just doesnt line up.
"When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us."
Helen Keller

[Sister Candelaria]

Aw, thanks Sister Bridgey! I'm so glad you liked it. :-D And thank you for sharing such an amazing quote. I've stared at my fair share of doors, that's for sure! There's a lesson for all of us in there.
Love you!