Hi Folks,
One by-product of being a caseworker and getting to know our clients is that I come to love you all so much and I so want you to get what you want and what you deserve in this life, including those you are doing spell work on (your Heart's Desire or HD) and all the happiness that comes with being in a loving and secure relationship. I know it's hard sometimes to keep the faith, but I've been at this whole Magickal/Voodoo thing and been a practicing Vodouisant for quite a while now and I can tell you that this process does work! Frankly, I wouldn't be here if it didn't. I also know that this is not an easy process. In fact it's downright hard, draining, frustrating, and can have it's heartbreaking moments along the way, as well. I get all of that because I've sat right where you all are. I've been through the process, so I know how all of this feels. It ain't easy, but the rewards are soooo great!
Sister Bridget and I have a saying, "Voodoo is not for the weak." It's completely true. It takes some big ones to go through this process, that's for sure, but what you get on the other side of it is a far greater spiritual understanding, a greater understanding of yourself and your place in this big universe, AND the love you are seeking, and that's just for starters! However, you have to do your part too, and that doesn't include just doing the spell work and then sitting there and pining for what you want to happen while you wait for results. Yes, it's easy to fall into that "Woe Is Me" place, but you do have to have a certain amount of strength and intestinal fortitude to keep yourself from going there. Why? Well, basically because of what we have all talked about before. Your attitude matters, and it has a direct effect on your spell work.
I know you all have heard of the Universal Law of Attraction. We've all mentioned it at one point or another and several of the books on Mambo Sam's book list (http://www.spellmaker.com/books.htm) talk about it in detail. Basically what it says is that whatever you put your attention to will manifest for you. Sounds like a pretty good deal, doesn't it? I just think about something and turn my attention toward it and it's mine, right? Weeeeeell, right, BUT it can also be a bit difficult to navigate, at first. Yes, the Universal Law of Attraction will help bring to you the things that you so want in life, BUT there is a trick to making it work for you. You see, we human beings are a strange and funny lot. We have a tendency to dwell on the negative, to always expect the other shoe to drop, and to frequently go to "the dark, bad place" about things, no matter what it may be. For some reason, more often than not, we tend to think of the bad in things first.
For example, if your HD or Heart's Desire is out on a Saturday night without you, what do you think about? If you're like most folks, it bothers you at first, but you know that there's nothing you can do about it, so you wish him/her well and hope they have fun going out with the boys or out with the girls and try to push it out of your mind. Then, as the night goes on, you start to wonder where he/she is and what they're doing. You brush that off as silly, and try to concentrate on something else for the moment to get your mind off of it. Your mind, however, seems to be it's own boss on this particular evening, so you keep going back to it and before you know it, you HAVE TO KNOW what your HD is doing. You start to think about it more and more. You think about how much you love your HD and how attractive and charming he/she is and how you are just certain that everyone wants your HD, because you want them so badly you can taste it, so it must be the same for everyone they meet, right?! But wait! They are at a club with friends, so that means that right now, your HD is probably charming the socks off of everyone he/she comes in contact with and that OF COURSE means that your HD is with someone else...someone they like better than you and someone they will no doubt hook up with and have a one night stand with that will turn into so much more and before you know it, you will be left even more in the cold, simply because your HD is out on this very night without you. THAT BASTARD! (OR BITCH) HOW DARE THEY!? Don't they know that you are here, just thinking about them and wanting them and why aren't they with you, spending time with you?! How dare they disrespect you and your feeling for them like this!!! Sound familiar? That's what I call, 'Creating Monsters in Your Head," and it's easy enough to do, especially when you love this person so much and your feelings are running high for them. We've all fallen into this trap.
Now, let's go back to the Universal Law of Attraction. What have you just spent the evening turning your attention to? Wait for it... wait for it.... Ah, there it is! See what I'm getting at? You have just spent the night creating this scenario in your head where your HD is happily with someone else, thus, you are helping to manifest that more into reality and pushing your spell work that you've worked so frickin' hard on, even further away from manifestation! RATS! I DIDN'T MEAN TO DO THAT!! Well, yeah...see that's the thing...the Universal Law of Attraction works both ways. It will bring the positive and lovely things all filled with rainbows, unicorns and warm fuzzy puppies into your world, BUT it will also bring to you the things you are pushing against and the things you don't want, if you turn your attention toward them. Wait, let me repeat that...IT WILL BRING TO YOU THE THINGS YOU ARE PUSHING AGAINST, IF YOU TURN YOUR ATTENTION TOWARD THEM!
"Oh, great!! I can't win! Sister Candi! Thanks for the heads up, but now I'm completely depressed and there's nothing I can do about it! How in the hell do I come against that?!" Well, honestly, it's easier than you think. The trick is to, in your own mind and in your own heart, act like what you want has already manifest for you. The trouble is that since we humans are so damn silly and are always concentrating on the negative aspect of things, you sort of have to retrain yourself to think differently and only concentrate on the positive things that you desire. Only think of your goal and think of it as already being a done deal and already manifesting for you, instead of concentrating on the things that work against your goal, think of only the things that work toward your goal. This, combined with your spell work and the help of les lois (the lwa) can be an unbeatable combination! It's just a matter of refocusing your energy and working toward your goal in a positive light, instead of going to that dark, bad place we all have a tendency to visit.
Now, we all have our down days and no one expects you to be super human, BUT we do expect you to take a certain amount of responsibility for your cases (yes, just like with everything in life, there is accountability in spell work). So, it is your job through this process, to remain as positive as you can and to concentrate on what you want. Getting down in the dumps and wallowing in it is not the way to get what you want. However, if you turn that around, pull yourself up by your boot straps (as my grandmother used to say), and work at accentuating the positive manifestation of your goal, then you've just taken a HUGE step toward making what you want come into being. Do this, and continue to work on your case with your gris-gris bags or talisman and any adjunct work you're presently working on and you have a far greater chance of getting what you desire. This is much more effective than the sitting and wallowing in it method (believe me, I've tried both the spell work/positive thinking approach and the wallowing in your fears and depression approach and the spell work/positive thinking approach works MUUUUUUCH better! ;-) ) I know it's hard and we all do have our down days (yep, even me!), but this is something to keep in mind. It's a matter of making up your mind about who is in charge of the situation and putting yourself in the driver's seat in your own life. Are you going to work for your goal or against your goal? It's your life, help yourself to make it what you want it to be.
Just something for you all to THINK about. :-)
Light and much love,
Sister Candelaria