The very first call I ever received here at Spellmaker dealt with abuse. Having come out of an abusive relationship less than a year earlier I mildly panicked. I felt empowered by having left that relationship, yet at the same time terrified for the caller. She wanted a spell that would stop him from being abusive, and make things good between them again. I didnt know as much about the spells then as I know now, but I did know that even with spells the caller had an uphill battle. She and I talked for a long time about what the spells could or could not do, and what she really wanted. I think in her case saying things aloud and having someone ask what she wanted out of life was empowerment enough. We kept in touch over the years, and she did end up leaving her abuser and moved on to someone who was good for her. She did not end up doing any spellwork, but did start making some positive decisions for herself and is now in a healthier space.
The spells will not change a person's character or nature. No matter how much good it will do for them to change, the spells we offer will just not make them change who they are. They wont make an abusive person stop being abusive. And they wont make someone "live up to their potential". We do have things that will heal a person, and could help them deal with any issues that make them deal with anger poorly, but then it becomes a matter of how much energy and healing is healthy to invest in that person. We also have products for self improvement, but if someone doesn't want to improve then are you sure you want to take up that cause?
If you are thinking about spellwork it is always a good idea to start by thinking of what your absolute ideal outcome would be. What do you want and why? Sometimes people unintentionally box themselves into a situation where they feel so powerless that just a step in the right direction would be a vast improvement. But spellwork is to better your life. It is to improve something for the caster. So think about the big picture, not just about what would alleviate badness right now. Think big and be a little bit selfish, especially if you have been in a relationship where you didnt come first, or never felt like an equal. Would you do the spell Big Money to get $10? No. You would do it to get BIG money :) So why not go for the gusto with love? Be a little selfish
If you are in an abusive situation please seek help. The following are online resources that might be of assistance
http://www.ndvh.org/ -1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
Berkeley,
Thank you so much for writing this post. It really is such great information. It really opened my eyes to a mistake I could have made. Thank you again.
Love & Light,
JC
Posted by: JC | August 19, 2008 at 02:59 PM